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You can represent yourself in family court in Kentucky and Tennessee, and many people do in simple, uncontested cases. To do it well, use the official court forms, follow both the statewide and local court rules, organize your evidence, and treat the courtroom like the formal setting it is. Self-representation is riskier when custody is contested, when there is domestic violence, when retirement accounts or a business must be divided, or when your spouse has a lawyer.

1. Use the official forms

  • Kentucky: the Kentucky Court of Justice publishes standard family court forms on its website, and many circuit clerks' offices can point you to them.
  • Tennessee: the Tennessee Supreme Court has approved plain-language forms for uncontested divorces, with and without minor children, available through the Tennessee courts website.

Clerks can explain filing procedures, but they cannot give legal advice or tell you what to put in your forms.

2. Learn the rules before you file

  • Kentucky: family cases follow the statewide Family Court Rules of Procedure and Practice, plus local rules that vary by county. Jefferson Family Court, for example, has its own local rules.
  • Tennessee: check the local rules of the court hearing your case. In Davidson County, divorces are filed in Circuit Court or Chancery Court, depending on the case type.

Missing a deadline or a required filing can delay your case or cost you the chance to present evidence.

3. Prepare and organize your evidence

  • Financial records: pay stubs, tax returns, bank statements, and a list of assets and debts. Both states require financial disclosure in divorce cases.
  • Parenting records: a calendar of parenting time, school and medical involvement, and relevant messages.
  • Copies: bring at least three copies of every document you want the judge to see, one for the judge, one for the other side, and one for you.
  • Witnesses: if someone needs to testify, arrange it ahead of time. A subpoena may be needed to require attendance.

Written statements from people who do not appear in court are usually not accepted as evidence.

4. Treat court like a job interview

  • Dress professionally.
  • Arrive early. Security lines and finding the courtroom take time.
  • Check whether your hearing is in person or remote, and if remote, test your connection and find a quiet space beforehand.
  • Turn your phone off, and do not bring children unless the court has asked you to.

5. Speak clearly and respectfully

  • Address the judge as "Your Honor."
  • Do not interrupt the judge or the other side. Wait your turn.
  • Stay calm, even if the other side says something untrue. You will get a chance to respond.
  • Stick to the facts that matter to the decision.

6. Never lie or exaggerate

Credibility is everything in family court. An exaggeration that is disproved can undermine everything else you say. Present the facts as they are, and let your evidence support them.

When should you talk to a lawyer first?

Representing yourself is riskier when:

  • Custody or parenting time is contested
  • There is domestic violence or a protective order involved. Learn about protective orders.
  • A retirement account, business, or real estate must be divided
  • Your spouse has a lawyer
  • You are unsure what you are agreeing to. A signed settlement is difficult to undo.

Read about the benefits of hiring a family lawyer.

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